Change can be wonderful once we take the plunge. It’s not so scary after all! I think it causes us to lose our fear quickly and pushes us forward into something new and gets us out of our box, but we have to make the move, right?
Last week I talked about looking honestly at the man in the mirror as the first step toward positive change. “Man in the Mirror” is the theme of our upcoming Phenix Family Reunion, June 1 – 3, at the Paris Resort and Casino in Las Vegas.
We see mirrors all the time and we should pause occasionally and peer deeply. That’s not as easy as it might sound. We may want to see something that isn’t there, or we find something we don’t like … we find something we want to change, and that is the first step.
What we do with that self-reflection, though, is just as important, if not more so, than the self-reflection itself. We’ve got to make the change happen. It may take some bravery, and I repeat myself in saying that I think we grow when we push out of our box. Often, then, we won’t be so scared to maybe try new things in the future. Change can be so fun and adventurous, and it can give us more nerve to try new things. It can build our confidence.
As Phenix stylists, we’ve already made a big change. Lots of us decided to be self-employed: owning, operating, decorating our private suites, setting our own hours, keeping more of what we earn.
I think that puts us in a new generation of professionals in our industry. I also believe this is going to have a very important, positive impact on the industry overall. Fading are the days of tyrannical salon bosses and oppressive working conditions because now there are affordable options.
We need to keep it up. We need to keep looking in that mirror and deciding what to do next. Then, we need to do it, the second step, and that is no small task. We all know, for example, that it’s not enough to have good intentions but it’s easy to get stuck there. Also, change can be tough because it takes us away from what we know, our ‘comfort zone.’ It can be costly, too. Or maybe we don’t know where to start.
A plan, coupled with commitment, and some flexibility, are good to have in the tool kit. The plan helps us figure out how to proceed and where to start. It’s not written in stone (if it’s written down at all) and probably will need adjusting. Don’t be so rigid that you can’t make those adjustments. Don’t get so frustrated or disappointed by a setback that you can’t regroup to move forward. The commitment is there to get you back on track when difficulty and distraction certainly arise.
Don’t give up. Be flexible. Reassess, stick with it. Some change will be easy but certainly not all of it.
As always, be open to change! Huge kudos to artist Michael Jackson for his inspiring hit song, “Man in the Mirror.”